If you're gonna be that paranoid about hooking up with strangers then just don't. Whatever the age gap might be.

Besides, you're also kind of risking that mans safety by giving his neighbour info about him he might have not even known, which was true in this case. Why someone who's so paranoid about meeting strangers would even be on a dating app is beyond me.

I know it because I'm apprehensive of strangers myself, and wouldn't dare meet anyone who I don't have mutuals with through dating apps, or anything else.