Want To Impress Your Girl? Develop These 5 Qualities.

Caffeinated Thoughts
5 min readMar 9, 2022

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Character traits that will make you stand out from the rest.

Photo by René Ranisch on Unsplash

Introduction

Dating has come a long way. From the mini paper notes passed to your crush from the back of the class back in the 90s, to modern day texting, we’ve made great strides in the way we communicate, express ourselves, and win our crushes over. But regardless of the evolution of messaging and the way we communicate nowadays, some ground rules for pursuing someone remain the same. No matter how many apps or technologies you have on your phone, it all comes down to your personality, the qualities you possess, and the behavioural traits that set you apart from the rest.

So how do you ace it without coming off as too hot or too cold?

You can’t acquire these qualities overnight. They have to either come to you naturally, or you should have trained yourself to imbibe these traits over a period of time. You’ll need to master some behavioural aspects that women find sexy and irresistible. Regardless of your background, your upbringing, or financial status, these are traits that anyone can master over a period of time. With good practice and enough focus on the craft, you’ll be well on your way to winning your crush over.

So what are those prized traits that women find oh-so-charming and irresistible in a man?

A very sharp memory recall
If you thought having six-pack abs and flaming gun biceps were cool, try memory. You’ll be stumped! Women love guys who can recall intimate details at the right moments. Remember, it’s not just the details about a particular memory that count here, but how you use them to your advantage situationally. Sparks will start flying between the two of you when you recall important stuff in the right place and at the right time. Do this, and she’ll be resting her head on your shoulder, whispering sweet nothing's into your ear before you even know it.

The ability to think on your feet
Nothing screams sexy and desirable more than a man who can think on his feet and solve issues when he’s in a frying pan situation. And nothing gives a chick a boner like an analytical guy who can get himself out of a sticky situation right in the nick of time.

The ability to be resourceful and think on your feet when you’re put on the spot, literally or figuratively, sets you apart from the rest 99% who don’t possess this ability. And women love that. Imagine you’re out on a weekend trip with your crush and her friends, and you run into a vexing situation. A situation that takes sharp wit, intelligence, and a bit of street smarts to solve. Whom do you think your crush is going to fawn over? The guy who keeps scratching his head over what to do (or even worse, look to others for guidance), or the guy who knows how to get things done?

Being decisive
Being indecisive is a huge turn-off for women. Women love a guy who knows what his preferences are the moment he’s asked about them. They’re naturally attracted to such men. Whether it’s life decisions, or something as trivial as selecting a place for lunch, nothing is sexier than a man who makes his decisions in a snap instead of grappling around in the dark for answers. It’s okay to take your time with big life decisions. They come with big consequences, too. But if you endlessly rant on about a particular decision without making any solid progress towards either side of it, women will take you to be indecisive. So be wise enough to sort yourself out and know what your preferences are well in advance.

The ability to walk a tightrope
When was the last time you were put on the spot? How did you react to it? Not to sound crude, but women definitely fall head over heels for a guy who knows how to play his cards right. The ability to answer questions diplomatically without your personality taking a hit from the flaming arrows of condescension shot by others is sexy as hell. Women love it when a guy knows his stuff and how to protect his dignity and self-respect in a tight situation.

Being humorous (must walk the tightrope between humour and offensiveness)
This one stems from the above point, the ability to walk a tightrope without falling. You shouldn’t just possess a funny bone, but also know when and where to use it. Being humorous at the right time, and in the right circumstances, will prove to your benefit in the larger scheme of things. However, an ill-timed jibe or a joke made at someone else’s expense will set you far, far behind, and send all the progress you made with your crush up until then deep down the drain. You want to be extra careful around people she loves and treasures dearly such as her relatives, parents, best friends and colleagues.

Conclusion
Hmmmm….so you’ve got to have great memory, be smart, decisive, quick on your feet, and humorous. Do any of these ring a bell? Sure they do!

These are the very same traits that being an entrepreneur endows you with. If you’ve always been wondering why women gravitate towards “alpha male” guys who work as entrepreneurs or in powerful roles, it’s more for these reasons than for the fact they “look like” alpha males. In fact, it’s these very attributes that turn them into alpha males. I’m not perpetuating the alpha male stereotype here.

Not once did I mention popularity, six-pack abs, good looks, connections, or money in the bank.

Literally anyone can become this version of an alpha male as long as they develop the above-mentioned traits. The rest of the stuff like money, looks, connections, and material things are just good to have add-ons, a cosmetic touch to your already sparkling persona, if you will.

Disclaimer: It is only suggested that you possess these character traits if you want your girl swooning over you. These set of traits are not absolutes and only speaks in the context of cis-het relationships where the guy is trying to win the girl over. I am in no way suggesting that you can get your crush to love you back only if you possess these traits.

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